December 2019 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

 

Love Lies & Games

12/01/2019

 

The Five Secrets to a Successful Relationship – Part 1

Nov 26, 2019 02:37 am

A Fairy Tale Once upon a time, there was a young girl who, wide-eyed and full of dreams, left her hometown by the coast and followed her knight in shining armor to the city. Their wedding was a spectacular affair befitting a princess and her prince, and they came to live in a castle overlooking…

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The Three Capacities for Autonomous Living – Part 3

Sep 26, 2019 09:09 pm

Berne, like many others studying human behaviour at the time, suggests that a childlike stance is more likely to occur in a person’s third or fourth decade of life, after the skills to ensure survival have been fully developed. By then, you have learned from experience that your subconscious mind will take care of many…

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The Three Capacities for Autonomous Living – Part 2: Spontaneity and Intimacy

Jul 10, 2019 06:36 pm

Spontaneity Eric Berne, Founder of Transactional Analysis as a model of therapy, defines spontaneity as the capacity to see multiple options from which we choose to act. We can freely choose how we think, feel, and behave in response to an event. To be Spontaneous means to be free from the compulsion to have only…

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The Three Capacities for Autonomous Living – Part 1: Awareness

May 28, 2019 12:13 am

In The Games People Play, Eric Berne defined the process of becoming autonomous (self-determining) as the manifestation of the “release or recovery of three capacities: awareness, spontaneity, and intimacy.” Let’s take a closer look at the first of Berne’s three capacities for Autonomous living. Awareness For Berne, Awareness is the capacity to observe the world…

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A Couple’s Journey

12/01/2019

 

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:42 am

Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]

The post Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.


 

Committed Relationships – How to Move on to the Next Stage

Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

The post Committed Relationships – How to Move on to the Next Stage appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.


 

Do Opposites Really Attract?

Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

The post Do Opposites Really Attract? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.


 

Are You a Truly Effective Listener?

Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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Relationship Remedy

12/01/2019

 

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:33 am
Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]
Read on blog.

 

Can You Totally Trust Your Partner?

Dec 14, 2016 12:06 am
I often receive emails on the topic of trust so I think this might be a good time to talk about it. This is especially so as the Christmas season is upon us and for so many organisations this is also the time of the office Christmas party with potentially lots of alcohol and sometimes […]
Read on blog.

 

The Five Secrets to Fair Fighting and Getting What You Want

Dec 07, 2016 12:08 am
In any relationship worth having conflicts and fights are bound to arise.  The true test of the relationship is whether or not you feel that it is worthwhile to resolve these conflicts and if you are able to do so in a fair and objective way. The five secrets to fighting fairly include sticking to […]
Read on blog.

 

The Three Most Critical Languages of Love

Nov 30, 2016 02:00 am
We’ve all heard that communication happens via one or more of three ways: Visual – this refers to what we see and how we present ourselves Auditory – this refers to what we hear and say Kinaesthetic – this refers to what we feel and/or do The impact of the communication will vary depending on […]
Read on blog.

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What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …

Click here to learn more.

 
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test


Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 
Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?


To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 
Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires


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April 2019 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

 

Love Lies & Games

04/04/2019

 

Five Ways to Fund Your Love Bank

Mar 13, 2019 08:08 pm

I use the acronym TOUCH to remember the five ways of funding my love bank. T is for Time Relationships aren’t part-time arrangements. And, if your relationship is fed on left-over time (the time you have after everything else has been done), your love bank will very quickly be depleted. Your relationship must take priority…

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The “Love Bank”

Jan 25, 2019 03:24 am

Theoretically, the more money you invest, the greater the return. And if you’re a patient investor, you can even double or triple the return. Similarly, the unconditional love you give to your partner is a very wise investment. And just as you build a money bank by depositing funds you make deposits into your “love…

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Discover Your Conditions for Great Sex

Dec 21, 2018 08:26 pm

An Exercise: To discover your conditions for great sex:  Get a piece of paper and a pen and set aside half an hour or so. Think back to your best-ever sexual experience or experiences. If you have never had a great sexual experience, just imagine one or go find one of your favorite romantic movies.…

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Sex and the Stress Factor

Oct 26, 2018 12:23 am

Many couples use the state of their sex life as a barometer for what is going on in the rest of their relationship. I also suggest that the converse works as well: what is going on in your relationship and in each of your personal lives can also affect your sex life. Libido levels rise…

The post Sex and the Stress Factor appeared first on Love Lies & Games.



 

A Couple’s Journey

04/04/2019

 

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:42 am

Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]

The post Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.


 

Committed Relationships – How to Move on to the Next Stage

Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

The post Committed Relationships – How to Move on to the Next Stage appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.


 

Do Opposites Really Attract?

Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

The post Do Opposites Really Attract? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.


 

Are You a Truly Effective Listener?

Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

The post Are You a Truly Effective Listener? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.



 

Relationship Remedy

04/04/2019

 

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:33 am
Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]
Read on blog.

 

Can You Totally Trust Your Partner?

Dec 14, 2016 12:06 am
I often receive emails on the topic of trust so I think this might be a good time to talk about it. This is especially so as the Christmas season is upon us and for so many organisations this is also the time of the office Christmas party with potentially lots of alcohol and sometimes […]
Read on blog.

 

The Five Secrets to Fair Fighting and Getting What You Want

Dec 07, 2016 12:08 am
In any relationship worth having conflicts and fights are bound to arise.  The true test of the relationship is whether or not you feel that it is worthwhile to resolve these conflicts and if you are able to do so in a fair and objective way. The five secrets to fighting fairly include sticking to […]
Read on blog.

 

The Three Most Critical Languages of Love

Nov 30, 2016 02:00 am
We’ve all heard that communication happens via one or more of three ways: Visual – this refers to what we see and how we present ourselves Auditory – this refers to what we hear and say Kinaesthetic – this refers to what we feel and/or do The impact of the communication will vary depending on […]
Read on blog.

Quick Links:

A Couple’s Journey
Relationship Remedy
Love Lies & Games
Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …

Click here to learn more.

 
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test


Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 
Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?


To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 
Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires


Click here to find out more.
 

February 2019 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

 

Love Lies & Games

02/03/2019

 

The “Love Bank”

Jan 25, 2019 03:24 am

Theoretically, the more money you invest, the greater the return. And if you’re a patient investor, you can even double or triple the return. Similarly, the unconditional love you give to your partner is a very wise investment. And just as you build a money bank by depositing funds you make deposits into your “love…

The post The “Love Bank” appeared first on Love Lies & Games.


 

Discover Your Conditions for Great Sex

Dec 21, 2018 08:26 pm

An Exercise: To discover your conditions for great sex:  Get a piece of paper and a pen and set aside half an hour or so. Think back to your best-ever sexual experience or experiences. If you have never had a great sexual experience, just imagine one or go find one of your favorite romantic movies.…

The post Discover Your Conditions for Great Sex appeared first on Love Lies & Games.


 

Sex and the Stress Factor

Oct 26, 2018 12:23 am

Many couples use the state of their sex life as a barometer for what is going on in the rest of their relationship. I also suggest that the converse works as well: what is going on in your relationship and in each of your personal lives can also affect your sex life. Libido levels rise…

The post Sex and the Stress Factor appeared first on Love Lies & Games.


 

How Often Is Normal?

Sep 17, 2018 08:49 pm

“How often is normal?” is a perennial question. There is really no answer, because what is normal for one couple may be quite different for another. But what is normal for them depends on how they both respond to a whole array of things that reflect the state of the couple at any given moment.…

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Relationship Remedy

02/03/2019

 

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:33 am
Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]
Read on blog.

 

Can You Totally Trust Your Partner?

Dec 14, 2016 12:06 am
I often receive emails on the topic of trust so I think this might be a good time to talk about it. This is especially so as the Christmas season is upon us and for so many organisations this is also the time of the office Christmas party with potentially lots of alcohol and sometimes […]
Read on blog.

 

The Five Secrets to Fair Fighting and Getting What You Want

Dec 07, 2016 12:08 am
In any relationship worth having conflicts and fights are bound to arise.  The true test of the relationship is whether or not you feel that it is worthwhile to resolve these conflicts and if you are able to do so in a fair and objective way. The five secrets to fighting fairly include sticking to […]
Read on blog.

 

The Three Most Critical Languages of Love

Nov 30, 2016 02:00 am
We’ve all heard that communication happens via one or more of three ways: Visual – this refers to what we see and how we present ourselves Auditory – this refers to what we hear and say Kinaesthetic – this refers to what we feel and/or do The impact of the communication will vary depending on […]
Read on blog.

Quick Links:

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Relationship Remedy
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Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …

Click here to learn more.

 
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test


Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 
Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?


To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 
Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires


Click here to find out more.