January 2017 Newsletter

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A Couple’s Journey


Committed Relationships – How to Move on to the Next Stage

Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

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Do Opposites Really Attract?

Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

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Are You a Truly Effective Listener?

Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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The Difference between Love and Lust

Nov 23, 2016 11:01 am

By definition love and lust are quite different in that, love is based on affection while lust is based on desire. The Macquarie dictionary defines love as a, “strong affection for another person.” and lust as, “a strong desire for…” generally referring to the possession of something e.g. power or for some personal gratification such […]

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Relationship Remedy


Can You Totally Trust Your Partner?

Dec 14, 2016 12:06 am
I often receive emails on the topic of trust so I think this might be a good time to talk about it. This is especially so as the Christmas season is upon us and for so many organisations this is also the time of the office Christmas party with potentially lots of alcohol and sometimes […]
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The Five Secrets to Fair Fighting and Getting What You Want

Dec 07, 2016 12:08 am
In any relationship worth having conflicts and fights are bound to arise.  The true test of the relationship is whether or not you feel that it is worthwhile to resolve these conflicts and if you are able to do so in a fair and objective way. The five secrets to fighting fairly include sticking to […]
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The Three Most Critical Languages of Love

Nov 30, 2016 02:00 am
We’ve all heard that communication happens via one or more of three ways: Visual – this refers to what we see and how we present ourselves Auditory – this refers to what we hear and say Kinaesthetic – this refers to what we feel and/or do The impact of the communication will vary depending on […]
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Is This Really The End?

Nov 23, 2016 12:09 am
Reflecting back to a previous article I posed three questions for you to answer to help you decide whether it really is time to say goodbye. Here they are again for a reminder. Do you feel that you still love your partner and do you feel that your partner still loves you? If you had […]
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Love Lies & Games


The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

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Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

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What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

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