15 Dec 2016

December 2016 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation
 

 

A Couple’s Journey

12/01/2016

Are You a Truly Effective Listener?

Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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The Difference between Love and Lust

Nov 23, 2016 11:01 am

By definition love and lust are quite different in that, love is based on affection while lust is based on desire. The Macquarie dictionary defines love as a, “strong affection for another person.” and lust as, “a strong desire for…” generally referring to the possession of something e.g. power or for some personal gratification such […]

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When It’s Time to Walk Away

Nov 16, 2016 11:02 am

The best laid plans of mice and men… One of my blogs raised such a response that I feel I should say something more about the topic. The topic of that blog was: Five Questions to Ask Yourself When You Love Them Both Equally. And the comments that followed this blog raised further questions like: What […]

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5 Surefire Ways to Put Some New Energy into Your Relationship

Nov 09, 2016 11:05 am

Most relationships are very exciting in the beginning but if you have been in your current relationship for a while already you may have noticed that the initial excitement you experienced is starting to waiver and you and your partner may be settling into a dull routine. As a relationship progresses one or both partners […]

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Relationship Remedy

12/01/2016

The Three Most Critical Languages of Love

Nov 30, 2016 02:00 am
We’ve all heard that communication happens via one or more of three ways: Visual – this refers to what we see and how we present ourselves Auditory – this refers to what we hear and say Kinaesthetic – this refers to what we feel and/or do The impact of the communication will vary depending on […]
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Is This Really The End?

Nov 23, 2016 12:09 am
Reflecting back to a previous article I posed three questions for you to answer to help you decide whether it really is time to say goodbye. Here they are again for a reminder. Do you feel that you still love your partner and do you feel that your partner still loves you? If you had […]
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When It Is Time to Say Goodbye (Part Two)

Nov 16, 2016 08:00 am
In the article “When It’s Time to Say Goodbye (part One)” I addressed three important questions for you to ask yourself before making a decision to end a relationship. If you haven’t read that article yet go to my page and find it. The questions are worth taking a closer look at if you are […]
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When It’s Time to Say Goodbye (Part One)

Nov 09, 2016 12:03 am
In all relationships there is a time when you will come to ask some questions about whether it’s time to end it or not. The hardest question of all to answer is how can you know for sure when your relationship is just not working and it may be time to get out? To help […]
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Love Lies & Games

12/01/2016

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quick Links:

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Relationship Remedy
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Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

What Makes Me So Different From You?
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
Click here to learn more.
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

15 Nov 2016

November 2016 Newsletter

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A Couple’s Journey

11/01/2016

Relationship Stages (Part Six)

Oct 26, 2016 11:11 am

Relationship Stage Five The Ultimate goal for every relationship is ‘Happily Ever After’. When you are at the definitive stage of relationships you just know in your very heart that that is exactly where you are. This stage is about being independent of and inter-dependent with your partner all at the same time. It is […]

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Relationship Stages (Part Five)

Oct 19, 2016 11:06 am

Relationship Stage 4: Reconnection Stage four of your relationship is about ‘Reconnection’, where the patterns of intimacy swing backwards and forwards as you strengthen your personal identity and learn to maintain your own point of view without hostility. You think more productively about your differences and disagreements instead of having automatic negative reactions. This stage […]

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Relationship Stages (Part Four)

Oct 12, 2016 11:02 am

Stage 3: Moving from “We” Back To “Me” The third stage of relationships is called ‘Exploration’, as you move from the all encompassing “We” back to an individual “I”. When you are able to resist the pressure to return to a symbiotic state you begin to re-establish your own identity and self-esteem that, for a […]

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Relationship Stages (Part Three)

Oct 05, 2016 11:02 am

Stage 2: Rediscovering our Differences – The Differences that makes the Difference The second stage of Relationship that normal healthy couples pass through is the ‘Stage of Differentiation’ and managing the unease that comes with discovering that, despite what you thought, there really are differences between you and this deserves to be recognized and celebrated. […]

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Relationship Remedy

11/01/2016

Is This About You Or Is It More About Me?

Oct 26, 2016 12:08 am
When your relationship begins to falter, and there will be times it will, you may want to find something or someone to blame. You may even be left wondering if this was something that you did or said or something that they did or said. The answer to these questions is that it is equally […]
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Ending a Relationship (Part One)

Oct 19, 2016 12:01 am
Five Tough Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Relationship In all relationships there comes a time when you will come to ask questions about whether it’s time to end it or not. The hardest question of all to answer is how can you know for sure when your relationship is just not working and it […]
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It’s a Hormone Thing

Oct 12, 2016 12:08 am
Generally men are turned on sexually more easily than women. Men are also turned on more easily by sexual stimuli, including fantasy. And in addition nature also causes a build-up of sexual tension in a healthy male which will seek any means of release. This build-up of sexual tension actually begins again immediately after ejaculation. […]
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The Sex-Stress Barometer

Oct 05, 2016 12:03 am
Many people, and maybe reasonably so, use their sexual relationship as a barometer of what is going on in the rest of their relationship. Consequently if the sex is great then some people conclude, though sometimes incorrectly, that the rest of their relationship must also be great. Similarly some people decide that if the sex […]
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Love Lies & Games

11/01/2016

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quick Links:

A Couple’s Journey
Relationship Remedy
Love Lies & Games

Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

What Makes Me So Different From You?
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
Click here to learn more.
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

15 Oct 2016

October 2016 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

October 2016 Newsletter

 

A Couple’s Journey

10/01/2016

 

Relationship Stages (Part Two)

Sep 28, 2016 10:07 am

Relationship Stage 1: When all I can see is the good bits of you The first phase of a ‘real’ relationship is called ‘Symbiosis or Exclusive Bonding’. You arrive at a dance, your eyes lock in on someone across the other side of the room and you know that this is the person with whom […]

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Stages of Relationship (Part One)

Sep 21, 2016 10:08 am

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” Shakespeare Following on from my previous blog entries introducing the idea of scripts and the games people play it seems appropriate to now address the ‘acts’ or stages that your script takes you through and of the games we play as we […]

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What Is This Thing Called Chemistry? (Part Two)

Sep 14, 2016 10:01 am

Is It Chemistry Or ‘Script’? For me the answer to this question is easy. It is ‘script’ which, in truth, may also be about the chemistry or the chemical response we have when we first meet the person we think will be the love of our lives. But I’ll say more about that later. As […]

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What Is This Thing Called Chemistry? (Part One)

Sep 06, 2016 07:03 pm

There have been many theories to explain how we come to choose the people that we will go into a relationship with. Some theories focus on our attraction being most often to the people that have qualities or characteristics that we may not feel we have ourselves and unconsciously believing that if we miss them […]

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Relationship Remedy

10/01/2016

 

Creating Great Conditions for Great Sex

Sep 28, 2016 12:33 am
Great sex is vital to the continuing development of all great relationships and vice-versa; having a great relationship will ensure that the sex is also great. Men and women often think that sexual responses and satisfaction are reflexes that automatically leap into action once the right buttons are turned on or when the light is […]
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How to Fight Fair When You Disagree (Part Two)

Sep 21, 2016 12:08 am
A New Dance In my last article I wrote about some ideas I have about fighting fairly. Here are some more ideas for you. One of my most important rules for fair fighting contains a strong resistance, even though it doesn’t always work, to defend myself, or to shut down completely. I do this by […]
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How to Fight Fair When You Disagree (Part One)

Sep 14, 2016 12:01 am
Many books and articles have been written on the topic of how to get through these really difficult times in your relationship and about how to ‘fight’ our way through them in a fair way. This means that the outcome will only be found in consideration of our own contribution to the conflict as well […]
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Common Reasons Why Couples Fight and How to Solve Them

Sep 05, 2016 12:05 am
Whatever stage of relationship you are in there will be some conflict. Disagreements are not only normal but are a necessary part of the development of a healthy relationship. Without them there would be insufficient motivation to want to move on and strive for something better. The reasons couples fight are many and varied but […]
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Love Lies & Games

10/01/2016

 

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quick Links:

A Couple’s Journey
Relationship Remedy
Love Lies & Games

Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
Click here to learn more.

 
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.
 

15 Sep 2016

September 2016 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

September 2016 Newsletter

 

A Couple’s Journey

09/07/2016

 

What Is This Thing Called Chemistry? (Part One)

Sep 06, 2016 07:03 pm

There have been many theories to explain how we come to choose the people that we will go into a relationship with. Some theories focus on our attraction being most often to the people that have qualities or characteristics that we may not feel we have ourselves and unconsciously believing that if we miss them […]

The post What Is This Thing Called Chemistry? (Part One) appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

 

My Family Rules About Relationships (part three)

Aug 31, 2016 07:05 am

This is part three of the article on how families impact our lives and our relationships. I’ve already talked about how they may even be multi generational. Now I would like to address how we might be able to change these script directives. As your ‘script’, and your rules for relationships, was first presented to […]

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My Family Rules About Relationships (part two)

Aug 10, 2016 10:04 am

In part one of this article I was talking about how families affect the decisions we make about our lives through ‘scripting’.  Let me clarify this further with an example. My father grew up in a very large family during a difficult time in history. He was born into a time in Europe just after […]

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My Family Rules about Relationships (part one)

Aug 03, 2016 09:38 pm

Family and Cultural Scripts When you were born into your family you were presented with your ‘script’ or pre-script-ion for life. Just like an actor on stage works from a script, so do you. Most of us don’t even realize that subconsciously we accept and live out our ‘script’ without any conscious knowledge of what […]

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Relationship Remedy

09/07/2016

 

Common Reasons Why Couples Fight and How to Solve Them

Sep 05, 2016 12:05 am
Whatever stage of relationship you are in there will be some conflict. Disagreements are not only normal but are a necessary part of the development of a healthy relationship. Without them there would be insufficient motivation to want to move on and strive for something better. The reasons couples fight are many and varied but […]
Read on blog.

 

10 Secrets to Achieving Marital Harmony

Aug 31, 2016 12:01 am
Marital harmony can be achieved in a variety of ways. Sometimes it is the little things that maintain the peace in a relationship and sometimes it is more monumental decisions that can either harm or help the harmony in the household. While agreement is not always possible, it is important for the couple to realize […]
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5 Ways to Put Some Energy into Your Relationship

Aug 10, 2016 12:07 am
Giving your mate gifts for no reason at all is a way to get your relationship back on track.  You may have lavished gifts on your partner early in the relationship but as the relationship progressed you may not have done so as frequently.  Small, meaningful gifts given just to make your partner happy will […]
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Five Gifts Under $10 For Your Partner

Aug 04, 2016 06:14 am
  A homemade coupon book is always a welcomed gift and can certainly be made for under $10.  Create coupons on your computer or by hand for services that you know your loved one will enjoy and include a small gift to go with the theme of the coupon book.  For example the man in […]
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Love Lies & Games

09/07/2016

 

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

The post Getting What You Want from Your Partner appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quick Links:

A Couple’s Journey
Relationship Remedy
Love Lies & Games

Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
Click here to learn more.

 
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.
 

15 Aug 2016

August 2016 Newsletter

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What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation
 

August 2016 Newsletter

 

A Couple’s Journey

08/01/2016

Have You Made Your Partner Important Enough?

Jul 27, 2016 10:09 am

A question I get asked so often relates to when there are so many demands on a couple how should they set their priorities. One such question I received recently went something like this: “I am a 22-year-old lass. I have been in a relationship for 6 years. He loves me a lot and can’t […]

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Virtual Lovers and Other Long Distance Relationships

Jul 20, 2016 10:04 am

Once upon a time men and women would meet at a school dance or the annual town ball or via friends setting you up for a blind date. Things were simpler then. You didn’t expect to stray too far from your home town to meet the love of your life and once you did you […]

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I Just Got Married… What’s Next?

Jul 15, 2016 10:09 am

I received an email recently and this is all it said. I think this is a brilliant question and so will attempt to answer this as best I can. There is a beautiful naïvety and freshness behind this question that rings with a message full of love and hope for the future, a future which […]

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Where is the Unconditional Love?

Jul 09, 2016 10:06 am

I think this is a brilliant question. It’s about the difference between Unconditional Love and Conditional Love. I’ll come back to this question in a moment. Let me first tell you a story. Barb, aged twenty-one, and Baz, aged twenty-four, have known each other for several years and are planning to marry someday soon. Both […]

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Relationship Remedy

08/01/2016

Relationships – The Five Keys to Making Yours Super Successful

Jul 27, 2016 02:09 am
Once upon a time there was a young girl who, full of dreams and wide-eyed, left her home town by the coast and followed her knight in shining armor to the city. Their wedding was a spectacular affair, befitting a princess and her prince and they came to live in a castle overlooking the sea. […]
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How to Decide Whether Or Not to End a Relationship

Jul 20, 2016 12:09 am
So often I meet with couples who are on the brink of separation. It seems that even while there might still be a skerrick of hope they don’t know what to do about it and decide to separate because they simply can’t see any other way out. Here is one question that came to […]
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When Partners Are Constantly Yelling At Each Other

Jul 14, 2016 12:07 am
So often I hear from couples that they get to a place in their relationship where they are just constantly yelling at each other. And not only do they complain of having constant yelling matches but also that the arguments are as often as not about nothing so that afterwards they are left wondering what […]
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Am I Jealous Or Just Insecure?

Jul 09, 2016 12:07 am
A question I was asked recently was about the apparent need for a fiancé to continue to contact previous girlfriends. It went something like this: “I wonder why my fiancé can’t get over with his past relationships. We’ve been together for two years and I recently found out that he was trying to reach […]
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Love Lies & Games

08/01/2016

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

The post Getting What You Want from Your Partner appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Quick Links:

A Couple’s Journey
Relationship Remedy
Love Lies & Games

Recent Events

What Makes Me The Way I Am?

What Makes Me So Different From You?
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
Click here to learn more.
Quizzes & Questionnaires

The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.

15 Jul 2016

July 2016 Newsletter

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July 2016 Newsletter
What’s on at Northern Beaches Counselling & Mediation

 

A Couple’s Journey

07/07/2016

 

When the Age Gap In a Relationship Is Too Big?

Jul 02, 2016 10:03 am

When Being Different Ages Is the Difference That Can Make the Difference Recently I was asked about my thoughts on the impact that a difference in age might have on the future success of a relationship. Let me scatter some thoughts here before I answer the question specifically. I have known of marriages that had […]

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Age and Marriage

Jun 22, 2016 10:09 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “I would like to know what you think about the challenges that … age poses to the institution of marriage.” I love this question as I believe age poses a whole set of different issues for couples though none any less surmountable than those presenting to […]

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Why Is My Husband Addicted To Sex With Other Women?

Jun 03, 2016 10:01 am

Some time ago I received an email from a woman questioning her husband’s continuing infidelity despite the fact that they have been married for more than twenty years. The simple question was why he would continue doing this? The answer of course is never quite as simple as the question as there may be a […]

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The Love Drug

May 25, 2016 10:05 am

We all know when we are “in love” that our common sense seems to fail us as all we think about is the subject of our love and the delight there will be next time we meet. Even just thinking about them can result in that flurry in our stomachs as if they were with […]

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Relationship Remedy

07/07/2016

 

What Is Marriage and Why Marry?

Jun 30, 2016 12:02 am
In this article I want to address some questions on what is marriage, why do we marry, and the role of extended families in marriage. Firstly let me define marriage. For me marriage is about two people committing themselves totally to one another. And I’ll add to this my personal opinion that this may refer […]
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To Give or Not to Give (a Second Chance)

Jun 22, 2016 12:08 am
So often I am told about infidelities, hurts and disappointments between couples and then asked whether the offenders should be given another chance. I think the question is often asked because the offender has felt some remorse for the misdeed and they, both in the couple, are hoping that this is enough to get them […]
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Seven Rules for Effective Problem Solving

Jun 03, 2016 12:09 am
  I’m often asked why when a couple starts a conversation about something that is really important to them it often just ends in another fight. Improving your skills in this area will help your relationship mature in a healthy way keeping it strong and happy. For a couple to reach decisions without unnecessary battles […]
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Are You Thinking of Leaving? Consider These Seven Things

May 25, 2016 12:04 am
Being the one to decide whether or not to leave a relationship can be just as hard as the one being left, and for some even more so. The one being left really has no say in the matter. The one making the decision to leave is the one taking absolute responsibility for what will […]
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Love Lies & Games

07/07/2016

 

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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What Makes Me The Way I Am?

 
What Makes Me So Different From You?
 
Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
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The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

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15 Jun 2016

June 2016 Newsletter

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A Couple’s Journey

06/01/2016

The Love Drug

May 25, 2016 10:05 am

We all know when we are “in love” that our common sense seems to fail us as all we think about is the subject of our love and the delight there will be next time we meet. Even just thinking about them can result in that flurry in our stomachs as if they were with […]

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Relationship Building (Part II)

May 18, 2016 10:08 am

In my last article I spoke about Compatibility, Expectations, Personalities and Family of Origin and how an understanding of how these impact on you can lead to happier relationships. Let’s now look at some other components of relationship, the understanding of which can enhance your relationship even further. Communication in the Relationship I often have […]

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Relationship Building (Part One)

May 11, 2016 10:06 am

An email I received recently asked me to comment on each of the headings below so here goes. In this article I’ll address the headings of Compatibility, Expectations and Personalities and Families of Origin. Look out then for Part Two in which I address several more topics. What I recognised in each of the headings […]

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The Endurance of Love

May 04, 2016 10:08 am

This email came across my desk recently: “The man I dated for more than five years came back to me for marriage after 12 years we broke up. He lost his first wife while we were dating though circumstances denied us of getting married then. Within the 12 years we broken up he had a […]

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Relationship Remedy

06/01/2016

Are You Thinking of Leaving? Consider These Seven Things

May 25, 2016 12:04 am
Being the one to decide whether or not to leave a relationship can be just as hard as the one being left, and for some even more so. The one being left really has no say in the matter. The one making the decision to leave is the one taking absolute responsibility for what will […]
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Keeping the Fun in Relationships Alive

May 18, 2016 12:02 am
There are some statistics from research that show that children laugh at least two hundred times a day. How this is defined could be open to interpretation but from my recall of the data this could be anything from a smile to a giggle to a good old belly laugh. And if my own eleven […]
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The Marriage Is …

May 11, 2016 12:01 am
What Is Marriage? I loved receiving this question as it’s something that we may expect that we all understand but in truth maybe we actually don’t. So I started my research into answering this question by scrambling to the Macquarie Dictionary which defines marriage as “the legal union of a man and a woman for […]
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True Love, Lies and Deceit

May 04, 2016 12:20 am
Is it possible for someone to truly love you and hurt you over and over with lies and deceit? What a great question this is to get me going for the week The short answer is this:  NO! Someone cannot truly love you and hurt you over and over with lies and deceit. But it […]
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Love Lies & Games

06/01/2016

The Traffic Light for Change

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Have you ever spoken with your family and discovered that when talking about how life was for you as a child it’s like you grew up in two different families? …
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The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

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16 May 2016

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He Has Never Said I Love You

Apr 20, 2016 10:08 am

He Has Never Said I Love You “I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half months. We are engaged to be married early next year however I’ve some doubts about him. This is because everybody thinks he loves me except for myself. He has never said I love you throughout this […]

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What Is the First Step When Planning to Get Married?

Mar 17, 2016 11:01 am

So you think you have met your knight in shining armour or your fairy princess and you are thinking about taking the relationship to the next step. Maybe this is in contemplating living together or maybe even to become married. A question I was asked recently had to do with understanding what are the essentials […]

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What’s The Good Of Marrying?

Mar 03, 2016 03:18 am

This week I received an email with a number of questions about the good of getting married. Here are my answers as they were asked in the email. What are the procedures involved in getting married? I guess the starting point to getting married is to get the permission of the intended first. If that […]

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Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way

Feb 17, 2016 11:03 am

In this article I would like to ask you a question. Have we somehow lost sight of what creates a successful marriage? It seems from my numerous emails from you that there is so much hurt and distrust in relationships, that people are attempting to make lifelong decisions about entering into relationships, with their head […]

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Relationship Remedy

05/01/2016

 

Ten Reasons Why People Cheat and What to Do About It

Apr 20, 2016 12:00 am
Betrayed By A Fiancé/Fiancée? I receive many emails asking about the meaning of affairs and what to do when you catch someone out. This question is one that comes up regularly both in my rooms as well as via email. In this post I will try and put my thoughts down about what I understand […]
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If You Were Someone Else, Would You Marry You?

Apr 06, 2016 12:30 am
I started this article by considering a question sent to me by a client, and echoed by many others, who wanted to know what was reasonable to expect from a partner in marriage. As I was scouring other emails to see what related questions there were on this topic I came upon this pearl I […]
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When the Time Is Right to Marry?

Mar 23, 2016 12:16 am
When I was young, many years ago now, the dream of most young women was to finish school acquire some training of some sort and get a job. In those days it was somewhat limited to secretarial, shop assistant, teaching, air hostessing, or nursing. Following that was the challenge of finding someone “really nice”, getting […]
Read on blog.

 

Is It Ok to Lie in a Relationship?

Mar 09, 2016 05:50 am
You wake up in the morning and look across to the person you say you care for more than any one in the world. What do you really think about this person? Does he/she immediately fill you with love and adoration or are you thinking terrible or maybe even contemptuous thoughts about that person. You […]
Read on blog.

 

Love Lies & Games

05/01/2016

 

Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

The post Getting What You Want from Your Partner appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

 

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing

Feb 18, 2016 11:07 am

When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is about to explode then it might be an indicator that you are being invited into a game. It might be something that someone else says or may be conveyed by a gesture, a look on their faces, by touch, or even…

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Do Opposites Make The Best Relationships?

 
In this meetup I thought we’d do something different so when you arrive you’ll be given a Personality Test to complete…
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The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.
 

13 Apr 2016

April 2016 Newsletter

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04/01/2016

 

What Is the First Step When Planning to Get Married?

Mar 17, 2016 11:01 am

So you think you have met your knight in shining armour or your fairy princess and you are thinking about taking the relationship to the next step. Maybe this is in contemplating living together or maybe even to become married. A question I was asked recently had to do with understanding what are the essentials […]

The post What Is the First Step When Planning to Get Married? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

 

What’s The Good Of Marrying?

Mar 03, 2016 03:18 am

This week I received an email with a number of questions about the good of getting married. Here are my answers as they were asked in the email. What are the procedures involved in getting married? I guess the starting point to getting married is to get the permission of the intended first. If that […]

The post What’s The Good Of Marrying? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

 

Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way

Feb 17, 2016 11:03 am

In this article I would like to ask you a question. Have we somehow lost sight of what creates a successful marriage? It seems from my numerous emails from you that there is so much hurt and distrust in relationships, that people are attempting to make lifelong decisions about entering into relationships, with their head […]

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Do You Really Know Who Your Partner Is?

Feb 10, 2016 11:03 am

How often have you gotten to a place in your life with someone you think you know, as well as anyone can, just to find that they continue to surprise you? The surprise might be a pleasant one such as learning about something really amazing they have done in their lives that you had no […]

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Relationship Remedy

04/01/2016

 

When the Time Is Right to Marry?

Mar 23, 2016 12:16 am
When I was young, many years ago now, the dream of most young women was to finish school acquire some training of some sort and get a job. In those days it was somewhat limited to secretarial, shop assistant, teaching, air hostessing, or nursing. Following that was the challenge of finding someone “really nice”, getting […]
Read on blog.

 

Is It Ok to Lie in a Relationship?

Mar 09, 2016 05:50 am
You wake up in the morning and look across to the person you say you care for more than any one in the world. What do you really think about this person? Does he/she immediately fill you with love and adoration or are you thinking terrible or maybe even contemptuous thoughts about that person. You […]
Read on blog.

 

10 Absolute Must-Do Secrets to a Happy Marriage

Feb 17, 2016 10:00 am
While love is very important in a marriage sometimes it just isn’t enough. Just like any other relationship you have to put some effort in to make your marriage successful. So to help you on your way, here are: 10 Absolute Must-Do Secrets to Make Your Marriage a Happy Marriage Be open and honest in […]
Read on blog.

 

Forgiving and Forgetting – How to Truly Forgive and Then Truly Forget

Feb 10, 2016 04:03 am
It constantly amazes me how some people can remember the smallest details of everything that happened around a particular event while others don’t remember clearly what happened yesterday let alone last week, last month or last year. Actually these attributes clearly describe the difference between my life partner and me. My partner can recall events […]
Read on blog.

 

Love Lies & Games

04/01/2016

 

How to Be Assertive

Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following […]

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Responding Assertively to Game Playing

Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he […]

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Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing

Feb 18, 2016 11:07 am

When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is about to explode then it might be an indicator that you are being invited into a game. It might be something that someone else says or may be conveyed by a gesture, a look on their faces, by touch, or even […]

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Detecting Games in the Relationship

Feb 13, 2016 02:57 am

The Story of Lyn and James “Lyn” and “James” have been married for ten years and have three children. When they first met, Lyn had just left school. James was fifteen years older and had already been in the workforce for some time. At the time they met Lyn still lived at home, while James […]

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The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.
 

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.
 

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.
 

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.
 

15 Mar 2016

March 2016 Newsletter

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03/01/2016

Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way

Feb 17, 2016 11:03 am
In this article I would like to ask you a question. Have we somehow lost sight of what creates a successful marriage? It seems from my numerous emails from you that there is so much hurt and distrust in relationships, that people are attempting to make lifelong decisions about entering into relationships, with their head […]The post Have You Somehow Lost Sight of What Creates a Successful Marriage? Let Love Show You the Way appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

Do You Really Know Who Your Partner Is?

Feb 10, 2016 11:03 am
How often have you gotten to a place in your life with someone you think you know, as well as anyone can, just to find that they continue to surprise you? The surprise might be a pleasant one such as learning about something really amazing they have done in their lives that you had no […]The post Do You Really Know Who Your Partner Is? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

What Happens With the Love at First Sight?

Feb 03, 2016 11:07 am
The million dollar question here is this; is it the similarities that sparks the initial interest in another as a potential love interest or is it the differences that ignite it? Here’s possibly a familiar scenario Have you ever had the experience, like I did just yesterday, where you meet someone for the first time […]The post What Happens With the Love at First Sight? appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

No Mistakes – Just Lessons to Be Learned

Jan 27, 2016 11:08 am
I often receive questions from my clients who are feeling uncertain about their futures even going so far as to say they might actually hesitate getting into a relationship for fear of it not working out. Firstly let me say that this is a normal response to any big decision you might make whether it […]The post No Mistakes – Just Lessons to Be Learned appeared first on A Couple’s Journey.

Relationship Remedy

03/01/2016

10 Absolute Must-Do Secrets to a Happy Marriage

Feb 17, 2016 10:00 am
While love is very important in a marriage sometimes it just isn’t enough. Just like any other relationship you have to put some effort in to make your marriage successful. So to help you on your way, here are: 10 Absolute Must-Do Secrets to Make Your Marriage a Happy Marriage Be open and honest in […]
Read on blog.

Forgiving and Forgetting – How to Truly Forgive and Then Truly Forget

Feb 10, 2016 04:03 am
It constantly amazes me how some people can remember the smallest details of everything that happened around a particular event while others don’t remember clearly what happened yesterday let alone last week, last month or last year. Actually these attributes clearly describe the difference between my life partner and me. My partner can recall events […]
Read on blog.

Reasons Why Women Cheat

Feb 03, 2016 12:05 am
Recently I was surprised to hear news of increasing number of websites promoting affairs. So it maybe a bit of a surprise to hear that men are not the only ones who cheat on their partners.  It is becoming more and more common for women to be guilty of cheating. And while years ago […]
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Love at First Sight – Reality or Just a Fantasy?

Jan 28, 2016 03:55 am
You never get a second chance at making a great first impression. Research has shown us that you make a decision within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone about whether you like them, or not, and about whether you want to pursue a relationship with them or really can’t be bothered at all. […]
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Love Lies & Games

03/01/2016

Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing

Feb 18, 2016 11:07 am
When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is about to explode then it might be an indicator that you are being invited into a game. It might be something that someone else says or may be conveyed by a gesture, a look on their faces, by touch, or even […]The post Five Ways to Respond to Game Playing appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Detecting Games in the Relationship

Feb 13, 2016 02:57 am
The Story of Lyn and James “Lyn” and “James” have been married for ten years and have three children. When they first met, Lyn had just left school. James was fifteen years older and had already been in the workforce for some time. At the time they met Lyn still lived at home, while James […]The post Detecting Games in the Relationship appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Game Playing and the Winner’s Triangle

Feb 01, 2016 06:00 pm
Many people who have played the Survivor’s Triangle games have realized that it usually doesn’t lead to a good outcome. Then comes the need of a positive outcome and you have to figure out how to make it happen. Approaching the task logically, if you want a positive outcome to a situation you need to […]The post Game Playing and the Winner’s Triangle appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Some More Facts about Game Playing

Jan 26, 2016 04:34 am
Here are some little known facts about the games we play with our partners in relationship: Games are not played only between people in a romantic relationship. They can also be played between family members, between work colleagues, between friends and even between “teams” of people. You need two to tango. All players have […]The post Some More Facts about Game Playing appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

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In just one day you will learn 3 simple strategies you can implement immediately so you make the best decisions when looking for a relationship…

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The “Chemistry” Test

Here’s a test to measure how well your sexual relationship is working.

Answer the following questions about what’s true or false for you and your partner.

Click here to start the quiz.

What’s Your Favorite Position?

To discover your favorite place in the games you play with your partner, try this quick quiz.

Check off the responses that feel most like you. The position that has the highest number of checks in the “frequently” column is the one from which you are most likely to play your games.

Click here to start the quiz.

Other Quizzes & Questionnaires

Click here to find out more.