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01/04/2018

The Power of Gratitude

Dec 30, 2017 09:34 pm

Which Scenario Best Fits Your Relationship? You wake up in the morning and lean over to your partner for a good morning kiss and hug or you grab your mobile, ignoring the person beside you, as you roll out of your bed to go for a coffee and/or a cigarette? There are numerous ways to…

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Couples Counselling Without a Couple

Nov 28, 2017 08:01 pm

People often wonder whether Couples Counselling works when one partner isn’t present at the counselling session. Absolutely, yes, it works. If one of the partners change, then the other will respond to the changes. Of course, this does not guarantee positive change or that the relationship will work out, but it does start changing the…

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Creating Change Through Counselling (Part 2)

Oct 17, 2017 09:42 am

Golf and Other Games People Play Finding compassion for people and situations you hadn’t imagined you would is a good way to free yourself from any past hurts and things that are holding you back. Forgiveness and a balanced and considered reaction to mistreatment can actually win the “game”. Let me explain this with an…

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Creating Change Through Counselling (Part 1)

Aug 23, 2017 10:09 am

The Main Categories of Counsellors Many people are somewhat afraid and ashamed when it comes to help, especially on the topic of feelings, mentality and psyche. Realizing there’s a problem and a need for it to be solved is the first step in solving it. There are a few different categories when it comes to…

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A Couple’s Journey

01/04/2018

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:42 am

Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]

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Committed Relationships – How to Move on to the Next Stage

Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

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Do Opposites Really Attract?

Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

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Are You a Truly Effective Listener?

Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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Relationship Remedy

01/04/2018

Chronology of the Major Events in Australian History Regarding the Topic of Marriage

Sep 28, 2017 09:33 am
Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Adapted from Kathy Gollan for Earshot Updated Mon 17 Apr 2017, 12:58 PM AEST June 10, 1884 Married women can own property Victoria becomes the first Australian colony to pass legislation allowing married women the right to own property, in […]

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Can You Totally Trust Your Partner?

Dec 14, 2016 12:06 am
I often receive emails on the topic of trust so I think this might be a good time to talk about it. This is especially so as the Christmas season is upon us and for so many organisations this is also the time of the office Christmas party with potentially lots of alcohol and sometimes […]

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The Five Secrets to Fair Fighting and Getting What You Want

Dec 07, 2016 12:08 am
In any relationship worth having conflicts and fights are bound to arise. The true test of the relationship is whether or not you feel that it is worthwhile to resolve these conflicts and if you are able to do so in a fair and objective way. The five secrets to fighting fairly include sticking to […]

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The Three Most Critical Languages of Love

Nov 30, 2016 02:00 am
We’ve all heard that communication happens via one or more of three ways: Visual – this refers to what we see and how we present ourselves Auditory – this refers to what we hear and say Kinaesthetic – this refers to what we feel and/or do The impact of the communication will vary depending on […]

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A Couple’s Journey

The Secret of a Good Marriage

Nov 25, 2015 11:01 am

A good marriage is the ultimate dream of every person in relationship. From the moment the decision to marry has been made right through the preparation of the wedding ceremony; the couple can’t help but to create their own fantasy about a good marriage. Unfortunately, for some it only ever is a fantasy. The reality […]

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Love versus Infatuation

Nov 18, 2015 11:02 am

When we first meet someone we can sometimes confuse a very strong feeling of attraction towards them, one that we might think is love, for what is actually infatuation. We might then notice our attraction towards that person decreasing and we realize that if we act on this feeling too quickly we may have made […]

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I Am Not In Love – Can I Still Be Happy In a Relationship?

Nov 11, 2015 11:16 am

I think this question needs some qualifiers first about love and what is love as well as about relationship and what is relationship. In this context I will use love to mean any deep and meaningful caring of one person toward another. So I can truly love my partner but I can also equally love […]

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What Is God’s Will for Me?

Nov 04, 2015 11:06 am

From my reader: Thank you for this opportunity. I hope your site can help to educate many in the area of marriage, so that we can have a community of very happy people-to the glory of God. The following are the common burning questions: – For believers, they want to know if the person […]

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Relationship Remedy

Jealousy – the Green-eyed Monster

Nov 25, 2015 12:08 am

Sometimes couples come into me with an issue around jealousy, otherwise known as the “Green-eyed Monster”. When you feel jealous of someone, the slightest gesture of deception seems to be the greatest betrayal of the world. You cannot see them talking and socializing with anyone, you just want them to pay attention to you and […]

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How to Find Unconditional Love in Your Relationships?

Nov 18, 2015 12:00 am

I’ve already addressed in another article what is unconditional love but let’s review. Put simply, and as the words would imply, unconditional love is love that is given without the expectation of anything in return. Conditional love, on the other hand, is the love that is given in response to love received and generally has […]

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Does Unconditional Love Exist?

Nov 11, 2015 12:06 am

There’s a saying I’ve heard, and possibly even said myself, which suggests that the only love that is unconditional is the love of a mother for her newborn baby. The adage goes on to say that maybe this only lasts twenty-four hours or until your first sleepless night. To answer this question let’s firstly look […]

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Is Marriage Going Out Of Style?

Nov 04, 2015 12:06 am

You may already know that I have four children, all adults, who are starting to look at entering into long term relationships now that their childhood has passed them by […]

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Love Lies & Games

Common Reasons for the Games People Play

Nov 25, 2015 11:02 am

In the previous article I talked about a very delicate and manipulative game we grown-ups play sometimes. The game is ‘Why Don’t You…?’ and ‘Yes, but…’ Some people have played so much; they don’t even realize that they are playing it. Why though? Common reasons for the games people play In the previous article I […]

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An Example of the Games People Play

Nov 20, 2015 01:50 am

Grown-ups mind games: ‘Why don’t you..?’ and ‘Yes, but…’ When we were children, we all used to play games, most of them funny and harmless. The older we got the more intensive the games became. And because a child’s mind is so easily shaped the games he observes, and is often a party to, during […]

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The Purpose of the Games People Play

Nov 11, 2015 10:35 am

People often ask me – why are relationships so complicated? The short answer is – because there are two in the game. The games people play are a complicated mix of roles that are lived out unconsciously and driven by the equally unconscious need to stand by them on a daily basis. In short these […]

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The Games People Play

Nov 05, 2015 12:53 am

One thing is certain – human relationships are a complicated maze that has no entry or exit signs. It’s as if we start a relationship with our eyes closed, groping our way to the entrance of the maze but without a clear vision. We have no map or knowledge of how long it will take […]

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