Apr 24, 2017 06:15 pm

The “Gotcha” Game When a game is being played, there are two sides, so while Alex was playing his game, Tamara was “feeding” her own game too. Her needs match his needs in the meaning that for her he is somebody that makes sure she is not responsible for the quality or success of their…

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Apr 07, 2017 09:18 pm

How and Why Games Began It seems that Tamara and Alex’s game began when had their first child. However, in truth, the root of the issues presenting themselves has a longer history and it starts with Alex’s early life. As often happens, when the first child is being born, the father can feel replaced and…

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Mar 22, 2017 11:03 am

Tamara and Alex’s Games Things need to be clear in order to be understood. By clear I mean the background story and the connection to the current issues to it need to be understood to fully comprehend what the current issues are about before responding. Usually issues come up when something far distant in the…

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Mar 16, 2017 09:14 pm

Beth and Roger’s Games – What Obstructed Their Relationship Progress? There are few things that obstructed Beth and Roger‘s relationship. Surely the first thing to mention is the miscommunications between them. Having in mind their childhood experiences and the way they have developed certain patterns in their way of relating to each other, it is…

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Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

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Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

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Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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Nov 23, 2016 11:01 am

By definition love and lust are quite different in that, love is based on affection while lust is based on desire. The Macquarie dictionary defines love as a, “strong affection for another person.” and lust as, “a strong desire for…” generally referring to the possession of something e.g. power or for some personal gratification such […]

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Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

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Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

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Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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Nov 23, 2016 11:01 am

By definition love and lust are quite different in that, love is based on affection while lust is based on desire. The Macquarie dictionary defines love as a, “strong affection for another person.” and lust as, “a strong desire for…” generally referring to the possession of something e.g. power or for some personal gratification such […]

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Mar 22, 2017 11:03 am

Tamara and Alex’s Games Things need to be clear in order to be understood. By clear I mean the background story and the connection to the current issues to it need to be understood to fully comprehend what the current issues are about before responding. Usually issues come up when something far distant in the…

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Mar 16, 2017 09:14 pm

Beth and Roger’s Games – What Obstructed Their Relationship Progress? There are few things that obstructed Beth and Roger‘s relationship. Surely the first thing to mention is the miscommunications between them. Having in mind their childhood experiences and the way they have developed certain patterns in their way of relating to each other, it is…

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Mar 02, 2017 01:39 am

Beth and Roger’s Games The story of Beth and Roger may look superficial or like nothing is really happening and affecting their relationship, but if the situation is analysed and looked at more closely, a lot of underwater details appear and give some clues to something happening at a subconscious level not evident when…

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Feb 01, 2017 11:06 am

Why Do We Play Games? Just as we need two people to agree to tango so too it takes two people to subconsciously agree to play the psychological games we all play. However, they don’t realize how exactly the game is being played, or how it all started, but usually the payoff for both sides…

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Dec 14, 2016 11:06 am

An email I received recently went something like this: “Sometimes I put in my best and yet it seems I must be trying too hard to make the relationship work because whatever I do it still doesn’t seem to be going the way I want it to. Why?” I hear this so often and yet […]

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Dec 07, 2016 11:06 am

Even though we tend to accredit Sir Isaac Newton with the discovery of the “laws of attraction”, it was actually the ancient Greek Philosopher Plato who first studied these phenomenon. In addition there were others from the ancient world who already understood about the properties of magnets that showed that “opposites attract” and “likes repel”. […]

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Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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Nov 23, 2016 11:01 am

By definition love and lust are quite different in that, love is based on affection while lust is based on desire. The Macquarie dictionary defines love as a, “strong affection for another person.” and lust as, “a strong desire for…” generally referring to the possession of something e.g. power or for some personal gratification such […]

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Feb 01, 2017 11:06 am

Why Do We Play Games? Just as we need two people to agree to tango so too it takes two people to subconsciously agree to play the psychological games we all play. However, they don’t realize how exactly the game is being played, or how it all started, but usually the payoff for both sides…

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Jan 11, 2017 09:54 pm

Life Is Not a TV Drama Is it possible to live a drama free life? Is it necessary to have drama in our lives in order to feel balanced when it is over? Isn’t it easier to just exclude even the smallest possibility of turning a fly into an elephant? What make us create dramas…

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May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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Nov 30, 2016 11:07 am

Listening is such an important part of relationships, one often overlooked in our consideration of what makes a relationship great. The skill of listening really isn’t a difficult one and you can improve your listening skills in just a few simple steps. Perhaps the most important tip for being a better listener is to give […]

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Nov 23, 2016 11:01 am

By definition love and lust are quite different in that, love is based on affection while lust is based on desire. The Macquarie dictionary defines love as a, “strong affection for another person.” and lust as, “a strong desire for…” generally referring to the possession of something e.g. power or for some personal gratification such […]

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Nov 16, 2016 11:02 am

The best laid plans of mice and men… One of my blogs raised such a response that I feel I should say something more about the topic. The topic of that blog was: Five Questions to Ask Yourself When You Love Them Both Equally. And the comments that followed this blog raised further questions like: What […]

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Nov 09, 2016 11:05 am

Most relationships are very exciting in the beginning but if you have been in your current relationship for a while already you may have noticed that the initial excitement you experienced is starting to waiver and you and your partner may be settling into a dull routine. As a relationship progresses one or both partners […]

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May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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There have been many theories to explain how we come to choose the people that we will go into a relationship with. Some theories focus on our attraction being most often to the people that have qualities or characteristics that we may not feel we have ourselves and unconsciously believing that if we miss them […]

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This is part three of the article on how families impact our lives and our relationships. I’ve already talked about how they may even be multi generational. Now I would like to address how we might be able to change these script directives. As your ‘script’, and your rules for relationships, was first presented to […]

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In part one of this article I was talking about how families affect the decisions we make about our lives through ‘scripting’.  Let me clarify this further with an example. My father grew up in a very large family during a difficult time in history. He was born into a time in Europe just after […]

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Family and Cultural Scripts When you were born into your family you were presented with your ‘script’ or pre-script-ion for life. Just like an actor on stage works from a script, so do you. Most of us don’t even realize that subconsciously we accept and live out our ‘script’ without any conscious knowledge of what […]

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In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

The post The Traffic Light for Change appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

The post Getting What You Want from Your Partner appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

The post How to Be Assertive appeared first on Love Lies & Games.

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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