08/01/2016

Jul 27, 2016 10:09 am

A question I get asked so often relates to when there are so many demands on a couple how should they set their priorities. One such question I received recently went something like this: “I am a 22-year-old lass. I have been in a relationship for 6 years. He loves me a lot and can’t […]

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Jul 20, 2016 10:04 am

Once upon a time men and women would meet at a school dance or the annual town ball or via friends setting you up for a blind date. Things were simpler then. You didn’t expect to stray too far from your home town to meet the love of your life and once you did you […]

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Jul 15, 2016 10:09 am

I received an email recently and this is all it said. I think this is a brilliant question and so will attempt to answer this as best I can. There is a beautiful naïvety and freshness behind this question that rings with a message full of love and hope for the future, a future which […]

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Jul 09, 2016 10:06 am

I think this is a brilliant question. It’s about the difference between Unconditional Love and Conditional Love. I’ll come back to this question in a moment. Let me first tell you a story. Barb, aged twenty-one, and Baz, aged twenty-four, have known each other for several years and are planning to marry someday soon. Both […]

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08/01/2016

Jul 27, 2016 02:09 am
Once upon a time there was a young girl who, full of dreams and wide-eyed, left her home town by the coast and followed her knight in shining armor to the city. Their wedding was a spectacular affair, befitting a princess and her prince and they came to live in a castle overlooking the sea. […]

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Jul 20, 2016 12:09 am
So often I meet with couples who are on the brink of separation. It seems that even while there might still be a skerrick of hope they don’t know what to do about it and decide to separate because they simply can’t see any other way out. Here is one question that came to […]

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Jul 14, 2016 12:07 am
So often I hear from couples that they get to a place in their relationship where they are just constantly yelling at each other. And not only do they complain of having constant yelling matches but also that the arguments are as often as not about nothing so that afterwards they are left wondering what […]

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Jul 09, 2016 12:07 am
A question I was asked recently was about the apparent need for a fiancé to continue to contact previous girlfriends. It went something like this: “I wonder why my fiancé can’t get over with his past relationships. We’ve been together for two years and I recently found out that he was trying to reach […]

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08/01/2016

May 11, 2016 10:08 am

In all relationships there is only one kind of response to your partner that is acceptable. If the couple are well tuned to themselves and each other this could be happening from the beginning though for many this is a growth thing and doesn’t develop until much later as you come to know each other…

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Apr 30, 2016 10:25 am

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments with dogs and pairing feeding them meat with a ringing bell. Naturally the dog would…

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Mar 23, 2016 11:14 am

When in relationship, as in life, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours become habits. Getting what you want could thereby follow those old well-worn habits, sometimes successfully and sometimes not. If not, you could use this to inspire and even change the way you express your thoughts and feelings. You can become more assertive by following…

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Mar 11, 2016 04:39 am

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells James of the plan, he is not OK with it. When she asks why, he…

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